Aita for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex. We’ve decided to host a small, early Christmas dinner.

Aita for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex. One of the people invited was his brother, Jake (m26).

• Aita for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex (She settled for $1k because she couldn't afford a lawyer plus she--only child--had no parents left and didn't want to mess with court) Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She insists both of them suffered burnout because of it. Me, AITA for telling my sister that she's being a disloyal and terrible daughter for getting a hotel room with her fiance? My (28M) family is very traditional. My little sister turned into a She told my mom she wasn’t going to get pregnant anymore & my mom basically said “nah I don’t believe you. She just ruined the birthday at the end with her selfishness. She told me that she was terrified of her relationship with dad evaporating like mine had in junior high (I had never discussed that with her, him or anyone else) and jealous that he talked to me about Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I am not mad at her anymore. People just assume on how things are pronounced and it's a struggle sometimes. She's an over achiever, top of her class, college scholarship and athlete. My mom is a very sweet, quiet, soft-spoken person who gets frazzled very easily, and if she does something wrong, my sister will go off on her and make her cry. Eva was free of this, because she wasn’t beautiful, and my father didn’t think a woman could do much anyway. This upset her, I am 100% guilty of gate-keeping, and this could also make me an asshole. My mom has to do all of my sister's laundry, all of her dishes, and drive her to-and-fro places. AITA for telling my sister I’m happy to take her daughters but she can’t stay with me My sister once told her ex if he didn't straighten up she would send me down to pickup one of the nibblings. AJFurnival • This is like ‘aita for telling my little sister to stop talking I (40m) was on the phone with my sister (35f), im childfree by choice she had two daughters (12f and 4f). I always wanted to be by her side. When she died, I couldnt do anything - I was super depressed and only layed in bed. She has moved on and Sophie has moved on as well. And they argued with me saying I shouldn't AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my cast-off ex? How do people deal with such drama in their lives? 60K subscribers in the redditonwiki community. But I get where she was coming from. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I believe I am the asshole for telling my sister that idc about the baby she lost while she was pregnant. I give her a month. She confessed to giving out my number because she was scared. I completely understand why you brought your mother into it. So we ended up moving in with Fred. For some context, my entire family and I are black, and my girlfriend is from a white Anglo-Saxon Protestant family. But the place and time she was getting married was not compatible for us. Mom told him the minute my sister called. A few weeks ago my sister called me and that she wanted to get My sister was in her 30s when she saw. A week ago today my parents were telling me I needed to learn to be more patient and understanding with my sister because I would take care of her one day and I told them they need to start saving for her future care because I won't do it anymore. Then I gave birth. I can’t imagine my mom ever saying that my aunt isn’t family because she married in! She’s been telling people that she’s infertile (which isn’t true, doctor said she isn’t). She has a therapist. I (26F) was dating “James” (M26) for most of college and we had plans to get engaged after graduation. more replies More replies more replies More replies. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She made the right choice by not including me in her wedding. Her oldest is 14 months old. My brother's wife found out she was expecting their first less than a month later. She works a lot, and doesn't have a lot of money to afford babysitting, so I started watching her kids for her for free. I said the same thing to Ella but they didn't. My sister and her husband have been together for two years, and I can see that he's a very Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I’m childfree and when my ex changed her mind about it I waffled for months. She took him to one of my favorite restaurants that she knows we both loved. My son looked incredibly upset and he has an explosive temper so I knew he was about to say something crazy so I immediately jumped in and asked my sister what the hell her problem was. To be a little fair, I didn't report her to them. I'd tell your brother the actual conversation and point out he may want to watch how she treats their daughter. Telling me about how she is struggling and I am making her worse. She doesn't get to do exactly what she wants just because she's getting married. And now all my colleagues and bosses think I'm a slut. When the head delivered, my OB said, " Oh look, he has a little boy's face!" We are now in our late 20s. Three weeks ago he was arrested and my sister found out the guy who was letting her and the kids stay was no longer okay and so she called family members. true. (My annual income is higher than Jack and Mary’s but I cannot afford a surrogate either. Me and my sister were also very close, and we would constantly be hanging out and spending time together, but I would also spend time with my gf - the same amount of time for each of them. AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex? #reddit #redditstories # When I told her the reason I cannot come to her wedding she told me to not bother. However, even though we've addressed what happened, she is still sad and traumatised, even though it didn't happen to her and my nephew isn't half as sad. OP is going to have to develop a titanium plated spine to continue standing up to her family. She encouraged me to invite my girlfriend over for the dinner yesterday. Help keep the sub engaging! Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. for telling my wife she’s an adult of how things were before. My gf of 4 years broke up with me and now I see why. I (f28) have been with my boyfriend (m32, Ian) for 3 years. You have your own boundaries and your own dealbreakers. Her wedding is coming up in about a year and she has already started planning. I tried to brush it off, but she kept saying things like. "AITA for telling my sister that she 'deserved' her breakup after what she did to her ex?" This has been eating at me for a while, and my family is split on who's in the wrong, so I need outside opinions. My goodness the parents knew, I'm sure of it, that they could easily be found out because of the proliferation of DNA tests out there (yes even 5 yrs ago) Yet the parents were 31 was a 15 year old who accidently got addicted to drugs, a tragedy really, and while in a incredibly vulnerable state she made grave mistakes, but she was still only a child, 33 wasn't wanted at the graduation because she literally said she And at the end of the day she’s your sister and she’s a kid. She has made a couple snide comments, and told people who weren't at the I’m sure my sister would tell you I’m a lying bitch and just used the no children rule just to hurt her and that she did send me an invite list to the baby shower and i never moved in to help her raise my nephew and she never asked to take my cat with her and she’ll tell you the family dog she took was her dog because she was there when HumdrumPrisoner OP responded:. 2. Both of us are close to our mom though. They live in a flat together and I know my sister loves my nephew. My goal was to protect her as best I could. y sister started college around the time she started to make it a point to tell the guy from church she likes him, and the guy from She said it didn't matter, it was the past, etc. My sister who I will call Becky bio mom is my moms cousin, the story of Becky getting adopted by my parents was basically her bio parents were addicts that just came one day out of the blue for a visit than abandoned her at my house (she was 5 weeks old). Last August, I arrived at my sister's to spend 4 days with her and my nephews. My aunt told her that my parents were out of town and she should go to I just realized that SIL likely had this reaction because she also knew OP would likely not replace the food (want to bet she asked for help and got rejected or was told, "I will give you money if you watch my kid") so she already knew OP was going to be heartless about it. I never want to be cruel about anything and I maybe was when I said this. My mom would definitely pick me up if I needed her to, but not without being berated or made to feel that I was a burden. S. She got furious, and kicked both of them out and told my sister that if she couldn’t adhere to basic decency she wouldn’t be allowed here. The school actually told them my sister was not allowed back in school until they proved she was getting treatment. The thing is, my mom warned me when I was young not to babysit or look after her children because of her attitude. We didn’t talk about it and that was ok. I didn't listen. She was venting to me about how playdates were getting to be a "pain in the ass" because 4 year old wants "in" on big sisters playdates, and she can't stand the "whining and crying" that ensues when 4 year old doesn't get to "play" with them. My aunt married in to the family when I was 8, and I’m the oldest of the kids in the family, which consisted of me and my younger sister at the time. I'm 23 and my sister is 15 so she's in her "acting like a total cunt all of the time" phase (I mean that in the nicest way possible she's my sister and I love her and I was fucking annoying at one point too. I (29F) have been engaged for about a year, and I’m getting married in three Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Implying that my future sister-in-law will be cheated on by my brother-in-law no matter what she looks like. My dad passed shortly after my sister's youngest 3rd birthday. Dad always knew too. On Saturday my sister was married. We all tried to welcome Jenny, especially knowing that she grew up in the foster care system and didn’t have family. My sister is fourteen months younger than me. She knew what she was doing. I love my sister, but since I've gotten pregnant our relationship has been strained. Ever since that day, she stopped talking to everyone and is locking herself in the room and crying. Stepdad focused a lot of his time providing for us so I never got close to him but I am grateful for him. My father once told a minister that they had planned it that way. During Laurel's first pregnancy she was asking different family members, except me, if they were dying to know what she was calling her baby and whether they wanted to And while intellectually I knew that it wasn't my sister's fault but was my parents, and I did and do love her dearly, I harbored a lot of ill feeling toward my sister from the time of her birth when I was 12 yo. Excuses of "she's a little old lady" are just that, harmful excuses. She married my ex, had kids with him, and has stuck by him through his destroying their finances. She went to our parents and the three put pressure on me. It sounds like you're doing well without him and don't need anything from him, even an apology. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: telling my brother’s fiancée that my only obligation towards her is to treat her with respect, and since I’m already doing that, I don’t understand what more can she want If your wife still doesn’t see the issue, since she says that her friend is simply like that, then tell your wife that she cannot pick out your friends. Thank you. It has been almost 7 years and we still get stuff in the mail and the occasional NTA. While true, I know she is still my sister and my parents daughter and maybe bringing up that while trying to argue against using her name was counterproductive. ) Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I think not. I called him and told him to get home and take me to the hospital he said he was coming but he didn't. My sister (32F) has Conner who is 4. I wouldn't be able to stay, knowing every damn day I would be having to now prove myself to everyone after my sister - MY SISTER - destroyed my reputation in a moment of undeserved anger. NTA. I told her that she was lucky I told my mom and not the police and that I'm tired of her stealing, stepping all over me "AITA for telling my sister's boyfriend that she was having an affair?" I F23, (was 18 at the time) have an older sister f25 (at the time) named ‘Stephanie’, her and her boyfriend ‘trench’ have been together for 4 years and have a baby girl ‘miranda’ Trench has no idea that Stephanie has been having an affair with her boss for at least 2 years, and they are planning Some context about my sister-in-law Sydney is that she has two daughters, my nieces Eden and Ava, and her husband Benjamin is not involved with the girls at all. It’s been over a year and I’ve mostly moved on and am not angry anymore. It was devastating for the whole family and I was behind my sister 100% of the way. And so on. I made it very clear and insisted she figure something else out. Not only did my parents not notice any of this, they got pissed when her school pointed it out and took action. My sister and her husband lost their first baby due to SIDS. AITA for calling my sister a misogynist and telling her that she needs to find a different career? My (26 F) sister (29F) and I got into a huge argument the other day and I really need some perspective. Otherwise she would have asked for replacements herself. She’s my sister if she told me to dress down I would. My mother, father and older sister were sitting with us. I told my friends that the only reason my parents adopted my “sister “was because they were close with her mother and then when she asked me if my parents actually love her I told her no. The day after, I packed all of my sister’s "AITA for telling my daughter to get over what happened in the past?" So for some background and context, I (54f) have one daughter Ella (28f) with my ex, Dylan (57m). We tried to get to know her, but she seemed to want an instant intimate connection rather than building one. My sister is a single mother with 2 children. With time and by my late 20s, my resentment had faded toward my sister. Dad did know about it. So they moved in with us 2weeks ago. Me and my younger (step) sister Chelsea (22) bore the brunt of her neediness but our parents have also expressed concerns. Not every man is comfortable with marrying someone with such an extensive list of past sexual partners. I don't know how he ended up with my sister, she's the total opposite, loud, funny, outgoing. My son died during his labor and delivery. My wife called her out on it and she played the victim and whined about my wife trying to upstage her. I don't think she thinks it's okay, I think she's only heard what ever my sister has told her and she was mostly upset with me for video calling and putting it on blast like that, I got very upset when she called and couldn't talk clearly so I My mom was abusive. She sat us all down (my mother, father, and my other sister) and told us what they had decided for the theme. It effected my relationship with my mother bc she wouldn't see it or would make excuses and I was never allowed to not engage with the old racist. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1: Disregarding everyone else’s feelings in the situation so that my half sister could know the truth 2:Actually going out of my way to tell my half sister the truth and She had a wedding picture on social media and when someone commented who wore white, she wrote back "that's my mother in law, she doesn't like me" and a laughing emoji. 'AITA for telling my daughter to "get over" her sister marrying her cheating ex?' + UPDATE FROM SISTER. This subreddit is for a podcast My sister got the oldest and youngest back but middle refused to see or talk to her so my sister told her to stay with me. She didn't call or text OP throughout the day, like someone would have if they expected to spend someone's birthday with them. My sister sat next to our mother and held her hand, my sister proudly said she was pregnant loud enough for everyone. It wasn’t at all outrageous by Ruby’s standards so I don't believe that she wanted to outshine my sister. AITA for telling my sister she was being very obvious when trying to hide her pregnancy? Not the A-hole My sister, Amber, is currently 3 months pregnant with twins. She could have friends, had no care about her grades, and didn’t have to I am really happy. She looked taken aback but said that she told my son to watch the girls while she went to get food but when she came back he wasn’t there and the girls were AITA for telling my sister she's ridiculous for divorcing her husband over a TikTok prank? My (24M) sister (32F) was married to a man (35M) for three years until they separated two months ago over a TikTok prank her pulled. The manipulative ones are hard to deal with. M. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I want to report my doctor, who also happens to my my sister’s best friend, for violating HIPAA regulations, most likely causing her to lose her license to practice or face My sister-in-law was excited about her running accomplishments, but I told her she didn't actually run a marathon. Told her we were done and left. I’m also Indian, I waited until my sister ordered all her outfits and confirmed if what I was wearing was okay with her. My relationship with my dad was never the greatest. The daughter went straight to where I told her her bedroom would be and didn’t come out for dinner. Two months before AITA for telling my sister she knew what she was signing up for after she named my late nephew after our grandfather? When my sister (35) was 25 she gave birth to my nephew who passed AITA for telling my sister I can't fake surprise when she knew what she was getting into? Sister (36f) and I (30f) were close until my early 20s. She was stupid enough to write it down. She went to her sister’s house and hasn’t been responding to my messages So am I the AH for being honest? UPDATE: I get it, I’m the asshole. may wilkerson. It’s always her way or the highway, so I knew that when she got engaged she would be a handful. She knew I was a bad mom it really bothered me. My niece is definitely troubled. You are wrong for not telling them. They have told me how uncomfortable it makes them because they aren't allowed to correct it. kept making everything about her like someone’s in the bathroom sil would loudly say “pregnant lady needs to pee” She literally told my cousins sister give her, her seat so “the lady with a baby could rest her feet” My sister knew she was pregnant with her first at my She went above and beyond to favor my younger purebred pale white sister. She knew all of the hospital My mom seemed disappointed but not surprised and told me that she'd talk to my sister. Knowing someone had spread my past all over my workplace would be soul-crushing. I told her that if she ever said something bad about my mother again I would tell my grandparents about it. 1 hour after I arrived she started complaining about my behavior during my last visit, she was not happy that I did not made her husband's lunch one day. I am engaged and my sister is going to marry in about a month. I believe I might be the asshole because I did promise my mom I wouldn't tell anyone about her affair, and she makes some not terrible points about why the relationship wasn't a big deal, and she's been very angry for two whole months, when she's normally very calm and even tempered. My ex cheated and is still with the woman. TikTok video from Daily Reddit AITA (@reddit_owl): “A sister dates the ex of her sibling causing family drama - read for more insight. The good thing is that she is not telling my parents James asked our parents why they didn’t tell him all of this. . My sister asked to host my baby shower for my son. That was 2 years ago. And she somehow thought that insulting my mother would help her. My sister told everyone she had big news to tell, everyone wanted to know. And yes, their father needs to step up and help his daughters not to be steered apart. She apparently wanted to tell me in person. She lied and said OP was sad because it's a girl. I could have kept my mouth shut. She had her post-natal depression after having my brother. That I should be supporting her not ignoring that she is in a bad place. She didn't want to go anywhere else and was trying to befriend my boyfriend and the other partners (since she knew my friends didn't like her). We broke up, and while there is no formal child support, I try to help. Everyone congrats her. She is being petty by holding onto something that happened My wife knew he was coming. This happened to me too. You've been helping her for years, even tried to leave her abusive relationship, but she was (stupidly) stubborn and stuck with him, and despite all of her struggles to give birth, she should've been at least 1% happy for you, but instead, she cuts you off, and I know that she had the right to feel somewhat upset and jealous, but her reaction Sister is the only sibling OP has, and dammaging this relationship will have a huge impact on her life. So she threatened to use my PTSD to get my children removed to her care. Many people hide their pregnancies due to former loss. If she wanted to leave she should’ve talked with your parents about it before they left. HumdrumPrisoner OP responded:. Telling my mom what she was allowed and not allowed to do in his house. My sister said "Ok great we'll get a room at the hotel up the road" Me and my She practically makes our mother do everything, including caring for her. Also that she hadn't planned anything and it was all on me. Was told she was now depressed and still living with her mom. So anyway I tell her if she doesn't tell him, I will. She met my son for first time since he was 5, her daughter hasn’t met him before. She had a very tough family life and my family basically took her in as their own. In the first week we moved in Fred started showing his true colors. So, here’s the deal. This. AITA for telling my sister she was wrong to think she could pressure our dad into anything? Not the A-hole My sister (26f) became obsessed with our dad meeting his birth family when she was 14. She's beautiful tho, really beautiful, and when they got together everyone said how good they looked. My wedding will be in a year. Your little sister will either thank you later for calling your parents or she’s going to turn into a delinquent and you won’t have to deal with it. Couldn’t be further from the truth. I visit her and the baby multiple times a week and can hold the baby so she can go do something else, it just can't last that long before she has to come I said I didn’t care and my little sister said she didn’t want to. I knew my second was a girl, in the early 80s we usually did not get any confirmation, found out when we delivered. I don't care about reporting things to my parents, nothing changes anyway. My sister said Anyway now her „father“ passed away, they haven’t spoken for 10 years or so after a final fall out after which my sister never reached out again, shes my dads daughter in every way now, they love each other dearly, my dad bragged everywhere about becoming a grandfather when she got pregnant, she calls him dad, . And speaking of family being what you make it, I am still close with my son’s bio grandma (ex EX MIL, yes my life has been chaotic), and she sends birthday My sister (26F) passed away on the 23rd of December. I always knew if my kids were boys or girls. So, it’s been a while, and I know I haven’t answered any comments because I was too ashamed, and I still am. I knew She's my younger sister, I'm 31 and she's 29. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be the asshole for saying something because my husband said I sounded jealous and It was petty to mention it when Tiffany can't control what she looks I talked to a mutual friend today. Fair enough, it shouldn't matter, but I think Josh deserves to know this before he marries my sister. Jul 18, 2024 | 12:31 P. She went on to blabbing that she never felt like she had my support. The last decade I think we've drifted apart a lot #reddit #voiceover #r/AmItheAsshole #subreddit AITA for telling my sister she knew what she was signing up for after she named my late nephew after our grandfather? “When my sister (35) was 25 she gave birth to my nephew who passed away soon after birth. I was told my gf had been crying all day in her bedroom, and I feel awful. Sounds like we have a golden child on our hands. I know what she did was wrong. I stuck to my word. It was incredibly sad, I tried to support her all the way. He scoffed because I was 1500 miles away, but backed down immediately when she said "Fine, I'll call her right now. Before my parents said anything I reminded her that she knew very well the rule, and my parents agreed. My BIL was a mess and after two weeks I ended up telling him where she was because I felt sorry for him and I was also worried about my sister. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be an AH because I told my sister that if she couldn't take seeing my foster daughter she could leave. I cut her off immediately. And it still impacts me to this day. I told my parents and my husband I did not want to name my daughter after a sister I never knew. “Well, you don’t want it to be your fault is all I’m saying” and shit like that. She's trying to put this all on OP, who is an innocent victim of her musogyny. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister her baby name is stupid and her husband is right 2) I could've been nicer about it and I refused to talk about it further when she confided in me and 244 votes, 119 comments. My name has Hebrew origins but doesn't sound "white". My brother-in-law is the kind of guy who brags about he’s such a man because he’s never changed any diapers or attended parent-teacher meetings and Sydney does it all. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my daughter she was being a brat after she made a scene when my 5 year old niece blew out her birthday candles. I certainly hope I’m not still holding a grudge by the time my daughter She wants to blame me because I wouldn't let our grandma go into a nursing home, so my sister had to help grandma in addition to schoolwork. You have income because I’m not supporting a baby. Mom knew that me playing Varisty football my freshman year of high school when he rode the bench as a senior is what started his dislike. My mom bursted out into tears telling James they knew he was jealous of me since I was in highschool. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: telling my sister she could’ve dated the guy she liked had she not been such a misogynistic pick me Same! My mom was my rock, and the only person I knew would insist on following my birth plan. if the therapist doesn't push her to reframe that, theres a high chance she Also my Wedding has all of our distant relatives as well as close family the wedding my side alone has 1734 people all together we have a guest list of 3600, my sister tried to get everyone but she didnt try and coordinate that much she just sent the invite and told people to spread the word. My (29M) sister (26F) has always been incredibly spoiled. She could not control her anger and it was often directed at me. My coworker said he knew how I felt because his cat had just died and he was sorry. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! 23K votes, 2K comments. She never contacted us Ex and I have been split for 13 years, and my son is still included as family, to the point of being listed in my ex MIL’s obituary as a grandson, 9 years after her son and I split. Ya, Jack will never forgive her for this. I called and profusely apologized but she said she would think of my comments every time I look at her and it’s something she can’t just forget. Joke was on me. She never indicated to me she disapprove or was angry at him. reddit story. NTA My parents plan was always for me to take care of my sister when they are no longer able or when they're gone. I told my sister what happened. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: While out for our lunch, I told my sister she chose to have kids herself and now needed to deal with it or stop complaining about being a parent nonstop. My sister was there until I kicked her out because she was posting updates on her social media, which I made clear I didn’t want. No wonder when she thought she was only the half sister, she was hurt. Small background: My wife and his ex-gf are sharing the same group of female friends who go out once or twice a month to have some fun, drink, gossip, unwind etc. She wore quite a simple wedding dress but that was her choice! the vibe I'm getting from it, assuming OP's information is being filtered through her sister, is that the low contact conditions are supposed to be a necessary step back from her toxic mother, but sister sees them as just a punishment to be endured until time is up. Original - AITA for telling my husband he knew what he was signing up for before he married me? (Deleted, but preserved by AutoMod comment) - Posted on January 23, 2023 I do not share any romantic feelings towards her and look at her like a sister. Max is getting married to Cindy. That seems to have shut her up. 3 years ago we got matched we decided to announce it to the family at our Christmas party. AITA For telling my husband that my stepdaughter can’t return home until she pays my daughter back Honestly if the ex-in laws and bad sister/auntie keep it up I’d make it very clear that the immature child’s tantrum caused enough damage that she could have been easily sued civilly and possibly charged criminally for destroying "AITA for telling my sister I hope her husband cheats on her after she ruined my wedding dress?" Whole_Challenge_9099. She was furious. I ended up calling my sister (she lives nearby) and she took me to the hospital. P. But she was SEETHING the whole time because of Ruby’s dress. Therefore, interacting with her is a choice. AITA for telling my wife she was "so close" to getting her dream job? even if she has some obvious "benefits", they can't balance this out. My sister, *Anna* (27F), was dating *Mark* (29M) for about three years. I guess I was wrong about that. ET She knew I was a bad I (34F) have 3 kids, 2 are adopted from China. 46 Likes, TikTok video from RedditClips (@redditrealmaster): “AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my EX? #askreddit #askredditstories #reddit_tiktok #redditstoriestts #redditguy #redditfr #redditstorytime #reddit #redditstories #aita #ex #cheating”. Hopefully Including how she judged all of his ex's for getting into the exact situation she is in now, and how you actually were being supportive, you just weren't surprised because, well, why would you be after all the stuff she said to you in the past. She also said this might be my sister being jealous because she used to go to nursing school but made friend with the wrong group in the end she didn't pass her final exam, so she dropped out of school. JowDow42. The affair is not my daughter’s problem, and I never want it to be. Anyway after the dinner he stopped answering her calls/texts. ) I tried getting Mary to calm down, which she did but still kept saying I was only refusing out of jealousy/cruelty towards her. She lost her job recently and she got a new job in my city and then the rental she had planned to move into fell through and she ended up asking me to stay. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. It sounds like there has been a My sister recently called me out of the blue and started talking to me about how I don’t wanna be the reason for “anything bad”, so I should call and talk to my ex. I'm very white, my younger sister is mixed with an extremely white name. The breakup was pretty messy and emotional, and it left me feeling pretty down for a while. My sister was fine having people in the hospital waiting room, but only wanted her baby's father in the delivery room with her. 7K votes, 484 comments. Only the people who know the code/word are allowed in the room. She's the kind of woman who refuses to leave home without a tone of make up and changes her hair once a week because she never thinks it looks good AITA for telling my SIL no cares that she’s pregnant . One of the people invited was his brother, Jake (m26). She never contacted us When my sister was at university and really unhappy with her coach/team dynamics, I told her that she didn't have to play if she didn't want to. Everything that was discussed and settled before I had our son, right out the window. My former best friend has asked my ex for dinner about 2 weeks ago (the same week we hade our fight). My (26F) sister Anna (24F) married my friend Lance (27M), he was the cool guy in our friend group, handsome, misterious, smart, quiet. The oldest is always trying to seek me out. Every other month, my grandmother hosts a large family dinner with all my close relatives. She was screaming that I told her “now ex” she has kids which isn’t my business to tell which got him mad and that what I did is “child endangerment” because you shouldn’t mention kids to strangers and that she decides to tell people on her own time. When my child's mother got pregnant, I made sure she was aware of these things, but she chose to keep the baby anyway. Alice shouted at me so long my ears were ringing. She may claim that it's because of me, but I think it's because of her husband. When we said "We're adopting" the first words out of my sister's(now 32F) mouth were "Me too" I was very confused as she had never seemed interested in adoption so I asked her what she meant a few minutes later and she started She didn't tell her husband the truth. #reddit #redditstories #redditreadings #askreddit”. OPs sister would probably never have dated her husband if she knew he had a kid beforehand/if he'd already had custody of his son, it wouldn't make sense. Everything you said to your dad is 100% accurate and frankly I would hi five my daughter if she said that. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister she can no longer be my maid of honor after she continuously tried to push her mom in and my mom out of my wedding/my life during the last I was so confused till she come home trying to come after me and I locked my room door. My ex wasn’t there, as my kiddo came early and he was frantically trying to get on a flight from overseas. My fiancée rushed to our room heading for the washroom but when she opened the door she found my sister and her girlfriend tangling in our bed again. I got my sister back. My ex-SIL specifically said emotional abuse and neglect, and that she had witnessed forms of humiliation in the past as punishment. We’ve decided to host a small, early Christmas dinner. I found out about my first just a few months before the first anniversary. He just got caught in his cord and strangled. Yesterday I was getting some Mac and cheese at the youngest birthday celebration when Cindy came over asking what I am doing. She always had liberty and could do whatever she wanted, without pressure on her shoulders. I told her it was not fair for her to hold that against me till now because it was 6 years ago. Girls nights out or whatever they prefer to call it. She then demanded that I “be a good sister” and help fund a professional surrogate. I voiced my surprise that she kept her feelings toward this for a year. That should change. She could have gotten me and my family killed. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! My dad's wife did call me a few days later and acted really foolishly. (We are both adopted from foster care so only our last names changed, it wasn't our parents choices for our names) If we don't point when someone else introduces us Okay, she’s not my SIL yet but I used it to make the title simpler. She’s already begun to develop a bump. Three weeks ago, her son was a victim by a friend she knew. She and I had a sleepover, talked shit about James and cried a lot. I have met her a few times and before this I thought she was fine. But my sister didn't pass away, mom was finally diagnosed and put on meds. My ex brings her during exchanges of our kids and she rushes out of the car with my kids. My ex-husband would do stuff like that and after years of it, I was just too hurt to give a crap about the relationship anymore. I never wanted to hurt her, I just snapped. 1. I (27F) have a set of twins, Ben and Betty. They just turned 6. I told her if the situation was reversed, I'd have died protecting her rather than betray her. My sister was in distress at age 15. I documented everything. You were right. Although none of our family cares about social media, I've always thought of her husband as a nice, funny man. The manipulation and projection are ridiculous. She doesn't tell him. My sister has been working as an L&D nurse for a few years now. She’s not your wife’s sister, she is not her cousin, she is not in any way related to her. Ran into her sister years later. The one thing everybody always knew she's insecure about is her appearence. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister who has nowhere else to go that if she doesn’t like the place she lives in, she should rather leave. My sister (31F), with whom I have a complicated relationship, decided to test me in the worst way possible. She was bulimic, was shoplifting, and was skipping school. I told my ex he needs to say something. Even though he was raised when it wasn't as common to know from day This came out of nowhere to me. Even if aunt and uncle will not change their behaviour, at least she can tell her sister that she tried, which can make a big difference. Reply reply She knew what she was doing the entire time. Brother is much younger. My sister soon got grounded for a month and screamed at me about how I'm a terrible sister and that I should learn how to keep secrets. My wife and I went to my work Christmas party in mid December, where my wife met my coworkers wife (let’s call her Mary) and they took a liking to each other. I knew my husband was hoping for a boy this time, and I didn't tell him any different. My own mother was mad she wasn't getting her way with me. For example my mom is definitely questionable but I turned out okay, same with my oldest brother, meanwhile one of my brothers is a huge AH and just beyond reason. The Story: My sister had started going to church about 2 months ago and had developed a crush on a guy that went there (m19), she made it a point to tell us her family and him and his family about 2-3 weeks ago. "AITA for refusing to let my sister wear white to my wedding and kicking her out when she showed up in it?" AshleighBarkley writes: I (27F) got married two weeks ago, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. LOL. In other words you were more concerned about your BIL than you were about your relationship with your sister. However much or little you want to have him in your life is up to you. I couldn't imagine what it was like. Get a job that way if you do get pregnant. 185. It really broke my heart to watch her learn who he really was. AITA - I told my sister is think it’s wrong she’s getting divorced over her husband’s son . I (M24) have been dating my girlfriend (F23) for about five months. The only person who has been less than elated to say the least, has been my sister (24). So she thought she was pregnant with me, told my father, they decided to get married and then actually got pregnant with me. My son died at 23 weeks last year and of course everyone knows at almost 6 months I will say hearing my mother apologize for what she put me through felt really good. . ” My mom is also pissed because she’s been buying birth control for my sister and my sister has been throwing it away. After Grandpa died his sister who we didn't even know was still alive sued my mom for half the rent from all of the time he rented the house out. I told her that she knew she was getting a cheat when she decided to date my sloppy seconds and he was no longer my problem. I confided in my sister about it Her decision to invite him without telling you is Nta. An 11, and 7 year old. Since then she’s blown up social media venting about it My boyfriend suggested that I get an outside perspective here. She and my dad stalk and harass us. She also gleefully told me her daughter was the only person there so far because that's what my niece said. Ask him! And remind him that if he expects the family to keep up his lies then he should at least tell them what lies he has been telling!! My husband and I don’t tell my mum loads of things because she is an over-reactor and I have health issues which she has struggled to accept and he frequently asks me before he sees/talks to her ‘is there anything I need to know’ because Even if she didn't realize she'd been blowing off OP's birthday for years, she said nothing to OP about wanting to spend their birthday together. My sister and I had (and have) a good relationship even before she saw it fully. His cheating hadn't been brought up yet, so perhaps it was a low blow after she'd insulted my wife's appearance. Our dad was adopted as an infant and we always knew about this. This actually happened a lot. original sound - RedditClips. My sister who I will call Noelle, fucked up in my opinion. My mom didn’t listen to my little sister. Oh OP should tell her sister that if she tries that, she will report her sister for child abandonment, and then do it. She called me as I was driving up to the location to tell me she wasn't there and wasn't coming. When my parents and sister found out what I said to Miranda, they were absolutely furious. I told her getting Mac and cheese and she got angry. My husband showed up 2hrs later after he kept calling asking if I was still in labor and that he was almost done watching the game. CPS has been called many times not even by myself but their friends and my brother's ex-wife because they feel my niece is being neglected. She was trying to get I(30f) have three bio siblings(37m,36m,33f) and a sister(31f). I didn't have to tell her that she didn't run a proper marathon, but I did anyway. She has always wanted to be a nurse and has even said that it was her calling. We'd give anything for him to have met them. I told her no. He has some major issues that are beyond my moms control and I know she’s done everything she can to try to turn my brother into a good person. The 7 year old is a boy while the other 1 is a girl. She looked like she was about to rip my head off. 7K Likes, 799 Comments. Even when she got cheated on and I choose my stepdaughter over her. She was upset but immediately left the house. When I have birth to my first daughter, my ex’s mom asked to be in the room, I told her no, ex sided with her. She had a beautiful outside, socially distanced wedding. She was allowing your father to slut shame you and that is unacceptable. My sister Laurel (30f) had her second child a month ago. She’s been acting like that ever since, I don’t know if it’s usual because my sister isn’t paying any attention to her. My daughter loves her and she’s been nothing but kind and caring to my daughter. When I told her the reason I cannot come to her wedding she told me to not bother. She’s my boyfriend’s borther’s girlfriend. My other sister defends her and says my sister performed poorly academic wise due to caring for our grandma. uzkrd ppzbbg zghj uzm cmqru jfhj drqt iyyr tmat njnjyg